Many couples plan romantic getaways for the month of February. Whether you’ve been together for a few months or several decades, traveling as a couple can create a unique set of challenges. To help you tackle any issues before they arise and calmly handle problems while on a trip, use the following list to help you avoid common mistakes couples make on a vacation.
Not Discussing the Purpose of Your Trip
You’ve probably established the destination, but in order to avoid conflict, the why should be discussed before any plans are made. Is the purpose of the trip to reconnect, enjoy family time, relax, or have a activity filled adventure? Discussing this in advance will ensure there are similar expectations and fewer surprises.
Not Creating a Budget
Arguing about money is a pretty common issue, but when you combine finances and travel, it can quickly become a source of conflict. Before finalizing travel plans, find a happy middle ground and always travel within your plan. Most couples discuss a budget for big-ticket items, like flights and hotels, but the same should go for meals and any other daily spending.
Letting One Person Do All the Planning
In many relationships, there’s one person who loves to plan and one who doesn't want to be bothered with details. Even if you’re the one doing all of the research and clicking the button to book, you still need to include your partner. This makes sure there are no surprises and everyone’s on the same page.
Diving Into Long or Group Trips Too Soon
If you're a new couple, don't fly off to Japan for a 16-hour plane ride and a month-long stay. Testing the water with a shorter trip will allow you to see how well you travel together as a couple. The same goes for taking a group or family trip too soon. Sticking to short trips with just the two of you is the way to go early on.
Not Limiting Technology and Work Time
Whether you just started dating or have been married for years, technology can often ruin a trip.” One way to prevent this is to set limits on social media use or have a rule that there are no phones out during meals or excursions. Agree on this ahead of time to avoid resentment. If you're a couple that can't fully unplug, there should still be a clear plan in place, like only checking emails in the morning or while your partner is off exploring on their own.
Having a Jam-packed Schedule
Don't create a trip with a hectic schedule. There is a natural desire to want to do everything, especially if it’s your first time in a destination, but this can quickly backfire. The combination of overextending yourself, stimulation overload, and jet lag can create added stress and conflict between partners. Being flexible with plans or alternating a busy day with a relaxing day can create more balance.
Forgetting to Check in With One Another
Once you’re actually on the trip, check in with each other to see what you both are enjoying. This daily check-in will give you each a clear idea of the highlights and helps you address any issues that may come up for the rest of the trip.
Spending Too Much Time Together
You don't have to spend every moment together while you're on a vacation. It’s absolutely acceptable, and sometimes even necessary, to take some time apart while on a trip. This is especially important if you and your partner have different interests.
Not Discussing Challenges in the Moment
No one wants to argue while on a trip you’ve been looking forward to, but it can happen. It’s all about how and when these issues are addressed. Don't wait until you get home to address the disagreement; handle them all in the moment. Talk it out and don't let it linger any longer than needed.